Would you like to know how to get more love and nurturing into your relationship?

The answers may well surprise you because I’m not going to say that you need to find a partner who will bring you lots of happiness. I am actually going to say that the first thing that you need to do is to clear any hurt and pain from the past.

So, if you’ve been in a relationship in the past where there has been a disappointment, or a hurt, or a resentment, or a let down or anything like that, I could almost guarantee that if you go into a new relationship without clearing that baggage, the new relationship is going to turn out to be disappointing too, or to be hurtful as well. It is so important that you clear that baggage.

Clear emotional clutter

Over the last ten years I’ve discovered how to clear this emotional clutter from my Client with a process called Emotional Freedom Technique. Emotional Freedom Technique is where you actually ‘tap and clear’ those hurts and disappointments from the energy system in your body.

Over the next few weeks I would love to show you how to do just that. We are doing a series on how to get more love and nurturing in your relationship and part of that series will be identifying those hurts and clearing them for you. So, if you’re interested in joining along, then please let me know in the comments. Perhaps if you’re brave enough, you might like mention in the comments (or even message me privately) just what sort of pains and disappointments have you experienced, and we can work on the type of clearings you need to handle these situations.

We have a session at 5pm every Monday on the Personal Peace Clinic Facebook and there are videos on our website to guide you through this series too.

Pain and disappointment

The first step is to identify and clear the pain and disappointment. Whatever it is for you, we want to get that cleared because you do not want to carry that into your next relationship.

Love yourself more

The second step that you need to do, is to love yourself more. Now I have learned a lot in the last few years about how to love yourself more. It became really apparent to me when I read the books of Anita Moorjani and others who had a near death experience. What Anita learned on her journey is that we need to love ourselves more and when we do, we actually don’t get sick; we don’t get stressed. Loving yourself more is so important. I couldn’t stress how important it is for you to love yourself more, so we’ll talk about that a little bit more today.

Don’t settle for things that make you unhappy

The third step that you have got to do, is believe that you can have whatever it is that you want in your relationships. Don’t settle for things that make you unhappy. Now I’m not saying to leave your partner, that’s honestly not what I’m saying; but don’t just let unhappiness slide. If there’s something in your relationship that isn’t the way you want it to be, there are ways to fix that issue and to make it better. Don’t just settle for what you feel is your ‘lot in life’ or ‘the best you can have’, because that’s what you’re experiencing now. It can be so much better, it really can! Over this series I’ll talk more about how you can make it better, because you’re the one who is responsible for making your life better, no exceptions.

Be in a receiving energy

The fourth step that you need to do towards getting more love and nurturing in your relationship is to be in a receiving energy. By that I mean that you need to be at a higher vibration. You can’t feel more love and nurturing if you’re feeling miserable, or sad, or depressed, or despairing, or any of those other awful feelings. So, what you really need to do is to get into that receiving energy. Now how do you do that? It’s really quite easy and it’s really quite fun. When you get into that receiving energy it simply means that you’re feeling the best you can possibly feel. You might do it when you’re out running, or it might be that you feel the best you can possibly feel when you’re with your children or your family. It might be that you feel the best that you can feel when you’re meditating, or in nature. There’s all sorts of diverse ways to do it. For me, I do it when I am walking along a beach path or meditating or just watching how beautiful it is here in Cairns on the Coral Sea. If you’ve got a place that brings you joy either spend more time in it or remember the times that you spent in it, because even just activating that memory can take you into that higher vibration.

We will talk about some ways to clear the pains and disappointments in the future sessions, however today I want to discuss some ways that you can actually love yourself more. It’s so important. I couldn’t stress enough, just how important it is and if I could convince you of one thing today, then loving yourself more would be it.

The first question to ask yourself is what stops you from loving yourself? What stops you from being your own best friend? What stops you from truly recognising your own worthiness and acknowledging yourself? Perhaps there are some limiting beliefs that are stopping you? If so, then we need to do some work in clearing those limiting beliefs and I can show you how to do that using a process known as The Tapping Process or Emotional Freedom Techniques. If necessary, you can also implement an extension of these processes called Matrix Re-Imprinting as well.

Another practice you can try is taking time for yourself. To achieve the items we talked about earlier such as getting yourself into that high vibration, you need to actually take time for yourself. We’re all so a busy these days and you really cannot live your best life while you are being so busy.  Really, what are you being so busy for? Are you caught in some sort of cycle of having to do certain things because you’ve made some commitment?

Who can fill you up?

Remember that you cannot give to other people to the best of your ability, unless you are filled up yourself. You can’t even give love to your children and to your family when your tank is empty. So, who’s going to fill you up? You are! You are the only one who’s going to do that. You are a worthy and deserving person and you need to take time for yourself.

Next, I need you to know that you’re not just here to serve others. If you’re in a helping profession, and I know a lot of you will be, you are not just here to serve those people. You can’t help others to the best of your ability, unless you fill your own cup up first. You know on an airplane when they let down the oxygen mask you always have to secure your own mask first. You always have to make sure that you’re taken care of first and you are the best person to take care of you. So please don’t neglect yourself.

Another point I want to make about loving yourself more, is to be kind to yourself. Do you treat yourself like you would your own best friend? If you don’t, it’s time to start doing that! Being kind to yourself is so important. Giving yourself time, giving yourself acknowledgement and giving yourself thanks. Acknowledging that you are special and unique and wonderful just on your own, that’s all it is. Just treat yourself like your own best friend and you’ll start to feel so much better. Believe that you can have what you want and desire because you really can! You are actually the creator of your experience.

This is something that was quite new to me until a few years ago and maybe it’s a new idea to you too? However, if you follow my steps you can create the experience that you want and all you have to do is to get clear about what you want. Get clear about ‘why’ you want, what you want. In my experience, the answer to that question is almost always the same. Everything that you want is to make you happier. Is that not true? You want more money because it would ease your life? You want more love in your life because it would make you happier? You want a happy family because that makes you feel good? It’s all about that end result of being happier and the way to get what you want in your life, is to get happy. It’s beautiful connection really because when you get happy and feel better, then you can start creating the life that you want.

My last piece of encouragement for you today is to be in receiving in energy. Receiving energy is really important because if you know the law of attraction, then you know that there are three steps involved in that. The first step is the asking. Now you’re doing the asking all the time. You don’t even have to say it out loud. You’re doing the asking every time you say that you don’t have what you want. You’re asking the universe for the opposite of it. So, if you don’t have enough money, then you’re asking for more money please. If you don’t have enough love, I’d like more love, thank you. If you have poor health, you’re asking for better health, please.  The universe hears those requests and says to you ‘OK here it is’. BUT … quite often you’re still at the asking energy phase and you need to be in the receiving energy.

Just a quick reminder that you get into the receiving energy by getting into the best feeling that you can find. To do that, you need change your thinking deliberately to get you into that best feeling. Every minute of every day, don’t settle for any less because once you know these techniques, you can’t un-know them and once you know them and apply them, the universe will give you the happiness your seeking and then you will start to receive what you want to have.

Be sure to watch our Facebook Series

We hope that you have enjoyed today’s session and look forward to you following our Facebook Series each week on Monday’s at 5pm. Also, please feel free to explore this website for more information and videos.

We are also excited about being featured in a new magazine called YMag! It is a magazine about empowering women and building resilience. In the current issue there is a two page spread on my personal story and my journey and I would like to encourage you to get a copy of the magazine. You can order them online at www.YMag.com.au or hopefully your local newsagent will have some copies available too.

Until next time, bye for now.